I am a divorcee who intends getting married to a married man.

Answer

Your family is displaying a crudely un-Islamic attitude akin to kufr. They appear to be victims of Hindu culture. Their attitude and vile statements in deprecation of marrying and being a second wife are undoubtedly kufr. They have lost their Imaan with such statements and attitudes. It is necessary that they renew their Imaan and their Nikah. When Allah Ta'ala has permitted polygamy in the Qur'aan, it is clear kufr to refer to a woman as a 'whore', 'slut', etc. merely because she chooses to avail herself of a right which Allah Ta'ala has granted. By 'disgrace' they are implying that Allah's Law is bringing disgrace to them. For such people who see 'izzat' in Hindu and other kuffaar customs, attitudes and practices, the Qur'aan Majeed says: "What! Do you search for izzat from them (kuffaar)? All Izzat belongs to Allah."

Disgrace is in the commission of haraam, and Izzat is in following Allah's Shariah. In the circumstances ignore the haraam statements of kufr which your family members are making. You are an adult. According to Islam you can represent yourself. You don't need anyone to represent you for Nikah. Have a small Nikah. The minimum requisites for the validity of a Nikah is the presence of two male Muslim witnesses, the bride and the bridegroom.

Q I have settled in another city permanently. If I happen to travel to my former hometown, do I perform Qasr Salaat or full Salaat?

A. If a person has migrated and has established the new place his/her home while having abandoned his/her place of birth, then he/she will be a musaafir in his/her former hometown if the intention is to stay there for less than 15 days. Qasr has to be made in the former hometown which has ceased being one's hometown after migration.