Question
- Seeking advice My daughter has struck up a telephonic relationship with a boy. Both are eager to perform Nikah. We (myself and the boy‟s father) believe that it is best to have them married to prevent them committing zina. However, neither the boy nor his father is by the financial means to provide a home at this stage. We have agreed that after the Nikah, the boy will remain at his home and my daughter will remain with us until he is able to provide a home. Meanwhile the marriage will not be consummated. They may continue their chats on the phone. What is your advice?
Answer
In the circumstances explained by you, Nikah is best. However, do advise your daughter that marriage is NOT a bed of roses. It is a bed of rocks and thorns, and it is worse when it takes off from a haraam stage.
Her stage is haraam, and she must expect later problems. She should enter the marriage understanding well that there will be problems. Then she should not run to you. When she encounters problems in the marriage, she should bear everything with Sabr. Marriages of this kind usually flounder and end with much acrimony and misery.
Furthermore, you do not have the right to prevent conjugal relations nor the right to prevent the husband from taking his wife. Once the Nikah is performed, the husband has the right to take away his wife regardless of whatever was agreed to.
Just understand that the Nikah in this scenario is a shortterm solution to prevent zina. The long term problems should be expected and taken within stride when they do develop although we should make dua that everything goes smoothly and the envisaged problems will not
crop up.
(If the stock consists of a variety of products, the total value will have to be calculated. Then Zakaat could be paid in either cash or kind. If in kind, then one fortieth (2½ %) in value of the stock should be given. -Translator)
- Source
- themajlis.co.za
- Published in
- The Majlis Vol 28 No 02
- PDF page
- 8
Verbatim verified against the source PDF
Appears under MARRIAGE FROM A HARAAM BASIS. This heading is the nearest headline at or before the page and is approximate. Do not cite it alone.