My wife and I are newly married a few months ago.

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My wife and I are newly married a few months ago. Her family is associated with a buzurg who has all the correct aqaaid regarding contemporary issues such as hurmat of digital tasaweer, Shar'i purdah, etc. My wife has been attending the buzurg's bayaans and writing to him for Islaah since childhood. After we got married, she expressed a desire to talk to the buzurg over the phone. My view was that there is no need for her to call him and that she is free to write to him for Islaah. I used to think this was the limit, especially since I'm aware of an Aalim-e-Haqq who does not permit females to message him directly on WhatsApp, and a phone call is even greater than a message. However, I have been much maligned for my view, especially since many of my own family and friends are associated with the same buzurg as well. When I asked for his advice regarding a different matter, he told me that there is no problem with my wife talking to him directly and that "all girls have been doing it." From a Shar'i perspective, is this view valid (that a woman should limit interactions with her Shaykh to writing and not have direct, 'real-time' contact over a call, WhatsApp messages, etc.)? If this is the husband's preference, does the wife or her family have any reason to be upset?