Question
A young girl and boy would like to get married. They both agree that they won‟t live together until they're older. They both agree that there will be no „responsibilities‟ and the boy wouldn't have to take care of or provide for the wife until he is financially stable. This is the agreement until they are ready to move in together. They both understand and agree that if things won‟t work out then they will get a divorce. The intention is to eventually live together as a married couple, but for the present, besides talking to each other no consummation of the Nikah will take place, so there is no certainty of them completely wanting to be together. Would it be permissible on that account that they make that agreement during the Nikah that they will both be fine with a divorce if things don't work out during the period before the actual consummation of the marriage? If however, she decides that they are compatible then she would live with him. Please give some Naseehah if this is advisable.
Answer
The arrangement between the girl and boy as explained by you, is corrupt and not permissible. The objective of Nikah is not sport, play and nafsaani gratification minus the responsibilities which accompany Nikah. They are making a mockery of Nikah. They should not get married at this stage. They are mentally unprepared for the responsibilities which come with Nikah. Their objective is nothing other than deriving pleasure from speaking and seeing each other. The agreement they have made is improper.
- Source
- themajlis.co.za
- Published in
- The Majlis Vol 26 No 04
- PDF page
- 4
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