Question
Is it incorrect for a wife to say that she cannot cope to host visitors, with the whole responsibility on her. She asks her husband to help her as she gets very stressed having to see to children (their siblings feuds, dressing them, feeding, cleaning their mess etc), laying for the visitors, preparing the meals and dishes etc and even the clean-up afterwards. While previously her husband used to assist and it was more manageable. For the last few times she had to do everything herself, but she is overwhelmed and afraid that her husband doesn't know what it takes for her to get everything done and she will be left to it all by herself. If her husband is upset with her about this are the angels cursing her until he becomes happy? Is her ibaadat accepted? Is Allah Ta'ala displeased with her for displeasing her husband?
Answer
No, she will not be cursed by the Angels because of her inability to cope with the zulm (oppression) her husband imposes on her. It is incumbent for him to assist her or to provide a maid to assist her. She should not assume on herself such excessive work which will cause her health to suffer. It is not incumbent on her to cater for the numerous guests of her husband. Husbands should be considerate and beware of zulm.
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- The Majlis Vol 28 No 10
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