Question
Some nights during the week I come home late after visiting friends. My wife always fights with me and tries to control my movements. She does not want me to meet my friends, and insists that I have to be home every night immediately after Isha' Namaaz. Can a wife exercise such control over the movements of her husband and dictate to him about his friends? What is her Shariah right in this matter?
Answer
Her Shariah right is that you have to be incumbently at home every night immediately after Isha' Salaat. It is haraam for you to come home late. It is not permissible to 'enjoy' yourself with friends after Isha' whilst your family is alone at home. You should be
ashamed of yourself. You are a married man with children. Your wife and children are your friends. The other chaps with whom you wile away the time after Isha' are devils. They are not friends.
A common shaitaani practice is for married men to go haraam partying with haraam friends at haraam places at night. They return home late at time, and even after midnight. Their time is satanically squandered in zina. There are various kinds of zina – zina of the mind, of the eyes, of the tongue, of the ears and of the limbs. All of this zina is generally committed by men who come home at midnight and after.
Just as the La'nat of Allah settles on a woman who
leaves the home without her
husband's permission, so
too does the Curse of Allah
Azza Wa Jal settle on a man
who frolics around with evil
friends. The haraam dalliances of married men who
stay out of their homes late
at night are a cesspool of
immorality. It is nothing but
concupiscence which induces them to visit jaunts and
haunts with haraam friends.
Brother, you are sinful
in your nocturnal prowlings
and absence from the home
during night times. You are
rendering a grave injustice
to your family. Your wife
has every Shar'i right to
fight with you in her endeavour to save you from
your nocturnal haraam shenanigans. What does a married man want late at night
away from his wife and
children in the company of
filth? He wants only zina.
- Source
- themajlis.co.za
- Published in
- The Majlis Vol 23 No 09
- PDF page
- 10
Appears under THE WIFE'S RIGHT (approximate).