A woman in her iddat wishes to go to the funeral of a close relative.

Answer

What the jaahilah says is baatil.

It is haraam for a woman in her Iddat to leave the precincts of the home to attend a funeral. She should remain at home and make dua for the mayyit. If she has genuine concern for the mayyit, then she should not put herself under the Wrath and Curse of Allah Ta'ala by acting in flagrant conflict with the prohibition of Allah Ta'ala. In that case she will be a curse for the mayyit, not a benefit.