Question
I got married 5 months ago. I am 19 yrs old. Before I got married, I had Facebook. I was very strict with my niqaab. I wouldn't accept males requests, however there was one boy who was 27/28 who used to creep into my messages, I would be very rude to him, however he would keep coming back as people would continuously accuse us of being married. He was an aalim student who was running a certain deeni page which I used to read and I used to ask questions. At times he would be casual and I would slip and talk a little. However eventually I realized I was falling into sin and I blocked him. I also made taubah After a while I got married. My sister-in-law asked him about me and he said I'm a good girl and I don't like speaking to males. Him (the aalim) and her somehow got involved till it eventually led to them getting married. Now I don't know what he told my inlaws about me, but my motherin-law now says I'm not as innocent as my husband didn't ever speak to girls. However, my husband watched TV as a youngster and he even showed me pictures of the girls he used to like. I told him his past sins aren't my business. What should I do? I repented over my sin but my in laws are against me.
Answer
Most certainly you never were strict in terms of the Qur‟aan and Sunnah. Your understanding of strictness is not Islamic. If you had been genuinely strict, that is the strictness required by Taqwa, you would not have become entrapped with the faasiq creep who was running a deceptive „deeni‟ page. He is not an „aalim‟. He is an immoral jaahil. Shaitaan had drawn you into his evil net gradually.
Whoever participates in any of these media programmes (Facebook, Instagram, etc.) is astray and a follower of the nafs. These media are haraam and immoral. All molvis who appear on Facebook are agents of Iblees.
Although your mother-inlaw is correct in saying that you are not innocent, your husband too is not innocent and so is your mother-in-law not innocent. She does have some or many skeletons in the cupboard. What should you do? Just make Taubah, recite Istighfaar and ignore the drivel and slander your mother-in-law speaks. Don‟t let it affect you. Forget the past which Taubah obliterates, and make your best endeavour to be truly strict as Allah Ta‟ala wants you to be.
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