Why do women of today, especially the 'deendar' (religious) ones shout so much at their small children for every thing?

Answer

The reaction of people/ parents to their small children's natural misbehaviour is the effect of jahaalat. They were not taught better in their homes by their parents. Then they lack genuine Deeni Ilm and Tarbiyat. Aggravating the issue is western kuffaar influences. They are exposed to kuffaar reading material, television, and the shaitaani social media which predominate their lives. What goodness can be expected from people whose baatini outlook is kuffaar?

Their 'deendaari' is an outer, superficial façade devoid of genuine Deeni akhlaaq. Look at their functions, their mock types of purdah, their corrupt monetary dealings, etc. There is extremely little Deen in the lives of Muslims today. Nothing better is to be expected.

Parents and teachers generally punish their children to find an outlet for their anger. The intention is almost never to correctly discipline. Parents and even Madrasah Ustaadhs do not provide ta'leem and tarbiyat. They merely vent their anger satanically. The moral and Deeni betterment and benefit of the child is the furthest from their minds when they resort to punishment. This attitude is haraam. Instead of providing tarbiyat, they commit zulm on the children.

There is no cure for the diseases of Muslims. They have an aversion for the Sunnah - for true Deen. The Deen is antique for Muslims of this day, hence there is no cure. Just look at the lives of even so-called Ulama.