Question
Please offer some naseehat with regard to the following practice at the time of marriage: Kunchas (trays) are prepared by the families of both the bride and the bridegroom. The tray is very smartly prepared by experts in this field. Gifts are displayed in these khunchas. These trays are then exchanged between the bride and the bridegroom. These khunchas are justified with the Hadith which mentions the virtue of exchanging gifts. The khunchas are also advertised/displayed on whatsapp. Is there any Sunnah significance to this custom?
Answer
Far from Sunnah significance, this khuncha custom has only shaitaani significance. There is absolutely no relationship between genuine gifts given without ostentation (riya), and this Hindu-like custom which is entrenched in our community. The primary reason for the khuncha custom is riya (show) and takabbur (pride). A gift made to someone is a private matter. What is the need to advertise it to all and sundry? The nafs is a cunning tutor. The Qur'aan Majeed states: "In fact insaan has insight (and awareness) of his nafs even if he puts forth excuses." The Hadith which is cited is in fact furthest from the minds when they prepare the adornment of the khuncha custom. Using the Hadith to justify a baatil custom is evil.
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- The Majlis Vol 23 No 07
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